They’re everywhere: the jobs we desire and the men who don’t call us back. Are they physically incapable? Are the jobs out of our league? No matter what the reason, we are clueless and broke. The jobs we want and the men we think we want look a lot alike. Whether we land the job or the date, there’s no denying that the journey of getting there is confusing, a little depressing, and kind of thrilling.
1. He is mighty fine and totally husband material
He may be the one. He has everything you want and more. He has the potential to teach you new things and it could lead to a lifelong (or at least a couple months to a year) relationship that’s one for the books (resume)! He may not have the largest bank account but you both have so much in common. You decide to take the leap and reach out to him in the most impressive and unique way as possible. Peacocking, if you will.
2. He gives you butterflies and sweaty palms.
The meet-up seemed, to you, like a perfect match. The conversation ran smoothly, casual, and you even shared a few laughs. You showed enough interest without overwhelming him, asked questions, and made sure to slip in a couple of your best qualities that prove you’re perfect for each other. You exit on a firm handshake and smile and leave your portfolio and contacts behind.
He said you’ll hear from him by next Friday!
3. He doesn’t call when he said he would.
Of course, he’s busy. Understandable. It’s not like the man doesn’t have a huge workload already, and he did say he’d be meeting with a couple of other potentials too. You’re not too worried though because there was a spark… wasn’t there? Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.
4. He leaves you hanging.
Friday comes and goes with no phone call or email. Maybe he’s playing hard to get? Maybe he wants to see your passion and determination to get his attention.
5. He ignores your double text, thank-you, and follow-up email.
You start to feel worthless, as one would, when someone doesn’t acknowledge your thank-you email and personalized written letter, mailed out with a stamp and everything! You start to doubt yourself and wonder what it was that you did wrong.
6. He takes his time responding (three weeks later).
By this time you figure perhaps he fell off the face of the earth, or that he thought someone else was prettier and more experienced (isn’t that just always the case with men?)
You try calling the third Friday but he didn’t answer. You call his best friend. All he can do is direct you to the friend of a friend who introduced you and all he does is respond with a wishy-washy fluffy email and makes you hold your breath another whole week.
7. He fails to give you any reason as to why it just won’t work out.
He doesn’t even have the decency and respect to tell you why it’s not going to work out between the two of you. He just leaves you hanging for so long that when all hope is dead, you come to accept you didn’t get the job. I mean, date.
8. It wasn’t meant to be.
All along you knew it was too good to be true. You hadn’t had a connection with anyone else in a long time, but maybe you’ve been looking too hard.
His people eventually message you that they’ll keep you in his contacts, because he did like your smile.
This kind of stuff happens when you least expect it. Mom always said you have to kiss a bunch of toads before you find your prince.
Keep at your search for “the one” – the right job for you, that is! Start now…